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When is it time to have the “what are we” talk?!
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Update*** so I asked her what she was looking for/wanted out of us.. her response was “I’m not talking to anyone else, and I like you a lot! Like a lot a lot and I definitely want to be with you, but I don’t know if it’s too soon to feel that way or not, so it’s kind of weird getting to know someone new you like a lot and not rushing it.”
So I’ve 31m) been talking to/seeing this girl (26f) for about 6 weeks now, we go on dates, we have a great time every time, we’ve had sex quite a bit, two sleepovers (which she doesn’t do well sleeping at new places but still stayed with me) and tells me she misses me, can’t wait to see me, etc. The thing is, we met organically, not from a dating app, and we never had the expectations talk. We’ve both said things along the lines of “this feels natural” or “we click” and so on, but no one has mentioned exclusivity or if we’re talking to other people, etc. I definitely like her quite a bit, but don’t want to mess up a good thing up by putting off the topic and making her think I’m not interested in a relationship.. so what say you, Reddit?
TLDR; been hanging out/dating 6 weeks, neither has mentioned exclusivity or the likes, how soon should it be talked about?
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Hearing the way my girl friends talk about the guys they’re seeing leaves me with no idea what the hell I’m doing wrong. : dating
Main Post: Hearing the way my girl friends talk about the guys they’re seeing leaves me with no idea what the hell I’m doing wrong. : dating
Are there really people who prefer people who don't talk that much? : dating_advice
Main Post: Are there really people who prefer people who don't talk that much? : dating_advice
35M found 31F on dating app after the talk of not dating other people
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We met last night to talk about it and she claims her therapist reminded her of old habits and to not be delusional in dating. That if I didn’t ask her explicitly then we are not together so she decided to unpause her dating app account.
I told her technically she did nothing wrong but we had the talk about not dating other people since we were sexually involved at this point. It’s been two months and we literally had great staycation weekends back to back and I wanted to ask her to be my gf.
I’m having a hard time believing this is the only time because she said she wouldn’t have told me had I not found out. I do love and want to be with her it’s just hard to move past this fast
Anyone with experience like this have advice?
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So her therapist told her to reactivate her account or keep it open?
Riiiiiight.....
Do rich people use dating apps or talk to strangers online?
Main Post: Do rich people use dating apps or talk to strangers online?
Top Comment: we dangle money on fishing line from our balconies then watch the ensuing death match a la squid game
Why Joe Alwyn Didn't Talk About Dating Taylor Swift
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"...Regardless of what she does, he will still not respond because he has removed himself from her narrative and is very glad he did.”
Top Comment: “We live in a culture that is so increasingly intrusive... The more you give—and frankly, even if you don’t give it—something will be taken.” Oh, Joe. You don’t even know how right you are.
How to talk to a girl when you don't know the language well?
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I 21 m (who's also autistic so social cues aren't my best thing) live in france and my french isn't great I basicly sound like a a little child at the moment, anyways I've been going to the gym here and the last few weeks there's this girl who's really cute and when we lock eyes she smiles I also smile but I don't want to make the mistake of confusing normal kindness with interest I want to say hi to her which isn't a problem since it's a tiny gym and most people seem to know each other but getting a actual conversation or small talk is where te problem lies since my french sucks and most french dont speak any english, I do want to have a conversation with her but I don't want to come across as creep and making her feel uncomfortable
Should I just say hi and bye to her and let her make the first "move" if she wants (but she seems pretty shy) or should I start of with hi how are you doing etc.
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Hingeapp Reddit Talk #2: Discussions about Hinge and dating with u/aapox33
Main Post: Hingeapp Reddit Talk #2: Discussions about Hinge and dating with u/aapox33
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First time listener - gotta say that both of your voices are very podcast worthy haha
Do I owe my ex a conversation?
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I 22F recently ended my three year relationship with my ex 22M. The break up was quick. We were driving in my car and I told him I wanted to break up. I started to explain by saying I feel as though we’ve grown apart since we started dating at 19 and he just told me he wanted me to turn the car around and drop him off. After the break up I told myself I would no longer be in touch with him because I know that’s best for me during the healing and moving on process. About a week after the break up he texted me asking to talk in person because he had more he wanted to say And I responded with no I’m not ready to talk in person but I could talk to him over the phone if he needed. He said no it needed to be in person. Three weeks have passed now and he contacted me again saying he really needed to talk to me so he can “move on” and get a “proper goodbye”. I said no again and that I want him to respect my boundaries and stop texting me and if he really needs to talk to me to move on it can be over the phone but again he said no. To be honest I don’t want to talk to him or hear what he has to say because I know it’s best for me to not see him in person but part of me feels empathy towards him and wonders if I owe him a conversation.
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I mean, you guys dated 3 years. Closure is important for a person. If you don't want to meet in person, maybe the phone. I had people who broke up with me out of the blue, and it devastated, not knowing why. It takes a lot longer to get over that way imo. So if you really did love him and cared for him, I'd give him that courtesy.